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 signs that you are in the wrong relationship

It takes time - for most of us - to understand we are the main character in our own lives. Unfortunately, some people allow themselves to be the background actor in someone’s story; to be treated as plan B; to be the missed calls on important dates; to be disrespected on so many levels where they get used to being out of the script. From our personal to our professional lives here are five tips we should pay attention:

1 - Stop writing huge texts for those who hurt you. They don’t care. ‘Oh, but I want him to know how much he hurt me’. He knows. He knew it before and he knows it now - but he just doesn’t care. Have some self respect. Grab your dignity and leave. 

2 - If you are trying really hard to see someone. Guess what? Someone is not really into you. ‘He has been so busy at work’. He is not busy, believe me - he just doesn’t wanna make time for you - period. Walk away. Nobody is getting younger and you are wasting your precious time. Remember: never treat as plan A who treats you as plan B.

3 - If he is committed to someone else and is having an “affair” with you - I’m sorry for saying this but you are trapped in a karmic relationship full of red flags where you lie to yourself each day waiting for something good to come out of it. Karma really is a bitch, watch out and be ready for the consequences that will come along. 

4 - Long distance relationships can be hard but if someone lives in the same city (no matter how big) and always finds excuses to not see you. Remember: far is somewhere we don’t wanna go. When we want to see someone we find ways to make it happen. 

5 - ‘He is not rude, he has just been through a lot recently’. Nope, he is nasty and is probably using any situation as an excuse to be abusive. It doesn't matter if it’s in your personal or professional life you should N-E-V-E-R, never allow anyone to take advantage or to hurt you with words, actions and physically. The life in front of you is way more important than the one behind you. So, move on!

Being emotionally intelligent is understanding that not all relationships are for us, not all jobs will work out, not all friends will be there when you need them the most, sometimes the people we love will hurt us and it’s fine - since it’s not intentional. You are the main character in this movie called life, own your script  and remember to deliver a big show - together or alone!

                                                                                                                             Bruno Rangel

@brunnonewyork